The Relationship Waiting Room

Waiting Room

“Good things come to those who wait.” Do you agree? How long is it reasonable to wait for something you really want?

 

 

To be honest with you, this is a bit of a challenging question. You see, there is a popular saying amongst my people that goes something along the lines of;

“The fruit from the tree of patience is sweet.”

 

I somewhat agree with that. Waiting makes you appreciate something more. If you see something and buy it immediately, it doesn’t sit in your mind for long so you don’t tend to appreciate it as much. Whereas something that you’ve had to wait hours on end for, counting down days; you are sure to appreciate it a lot more.

 

So I’ve been in a long distance relationship for a quite some time now. My wife lives in my home country and I live in the UK. Now I’ve known her for a few years now and we’ve spent quite some time together. We’re constantly talking to each other and texting each other on a daily basis. It’s been this way for 3 years now.

We got engaged a couple of years ago and married last year. I’m currently waiting for her visa to be granted as I’ve sent the application a few months. It’s a lengthy process so we have to wait. Prior to this we were constantly waiting for my holidays so that I could go visit her. We would count down months, weeks and days.

This brought us closer together and the time we spent together was very valuable. We wouldn’t waste a single moment of it because we appreciated each other’s company, knowing that we wouldn’t see each other for some time.

It has made our relationship stronger and I think we will always remember our time away from each and realise how much we need each other’s company. Unless we want those days back time later in which case it will make us realise it’s not working.

(It works both ways I guess. :P)

So that’s where I agree with the term. However, there comes a point in certain situations where waiting any longer is foolish and futile. Since we are already on the topic of relationships, I’ll carry on rather than opening another can of worms.

Let’s say you’re in a relationship with somebody and you’re giving it your all and you’re waiting for the other person to give you that love back. If you wait too long, you may end up having wasted a large part of your life and in the end be left without anyone or anything to account for it.

In such instances I think you shouldn’t wait too long.

 

Another example would be waiting on a date when you’ve clearly been stood up. If he or she isn’t here for half an hour past the scheduled time and you don’t get any response from them; phone-call or text, then you should pack up and leave.

Ok, I’ll open another can of worms, just because I’ve got another really good example. If you’ve made an investment in something and it’s not working out. Don’t bother waiting for it and putting more money into it, hoping things will turn around. That kind of patience is foolish more than anything else. Save what you’ve got left and drop the anchor before it sinks you with it.

 

But despite this, I think patience is a virtue and in day to day life, you should implement it as much as you possibly can before it goes on to becoming foolish.

– Desperado.

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